About Time

Let's get this out of the way before anything: I am doing this to end it all, if this be my last piece, let it be.

Now, on with my response. There are so many ways to answer this but let me do the bullet point type because i do not want to deviate from the topic. I will only answer what is stated.

I'm not supposed to say anything about the posts concerning my mother and my aunt because I know that my mother would not approve of me joining something as controversial as this and I'm not ma I just want to clear things up because I don't care what they say about you and tita gina.I love you both no matter what mistakes you have made in the past that they seem to have gone out of their way to bring up again.

My dear, your mother and tita posted first. Truth. Ask everyone who will tell you the truth. Review the posts. My profile is in Public mode. Then honestly answer yourself. If after that you still feel the same way, it should. She is your mama after all. But, use your brains. 

But some of those posts made my sister cry, and NO ONE makes my sister cry(except me). 

This is sad. Kids should never cry because of their mother's wrongdoing. Or ill-manners for that matter. 'Nuff said. Console your sister and tell her that what transpired should make her a better woman and not put her down. After all, she has YOU to emulate. Unfortunately, your mother is so NOT  worth emulating. 

Now let me set your statements straight. I saw a post(yup I checked on the so-called negative posts but just out of curiosity) I couldn't care less about them saying negative things about my family because it's not important. I know my family is not perfect but I wouldn't trade them for any price. 

My dear, maybe you should not be on FB. Intelligent as you are, according to your mama, you know there are dangers lurking and as your Tita and mama said, " there will always be opinions and comments that you should readily take because you posted them online."Yup,  no one is perfect. Not my family, not yours. I would never say mine is, moreso with yours. I know some truths that would invalidate that if you were to state otherwise.

Nothing is more disturbing than waking up in the morning with your mom telling you that your sister cried herself to sleep because she could not bear people saying bad things about our mother.

There is something more disturbing. Wanna know? Having a mother like yours. A mother who likes to laugh at other people yet, when confronted, cowardly go under the " it was never  you, i never named you, mangan sili magasangan route." What a pity. Yes, what you described is disturbing, but it is your mother's doing. Want to see the "disturbing" side it created? Maybe not. But let me tell you a bit. It hurt me, my husband and family. Don't be silly, you know the truth. Seek answers elsewhere where no one will blindside you. Ask your other family members. The truth hurts. It hurts both ways.

 I am the "ate" i have to turn the other cheek.But I can't. I read a post where it said "kaasi kami kanu nga annak ni Carmelita Co" well let me just correct you right there you CANNOT SIMPLY DRAG THE CHILDREN OF SOMEONE YOU ARE ARGUING WITH INTO THE ARGUMENT. What Is up with that? Don't they have children themselves? 

This is where I started questioning your intelligence. Did you read my post? Or you passed judgement without analyzing? WHat I clearly said is, " Carmelita Co, stop posting those or else I will do something you will regret, kaasi dagita annak mo." Let me point it out to you if it is not clear, as we adults sometimes make it hard for you to understand. I meant to say that your mama has posted bad stuff online attacking me and I wanted her to top because if I retaliate, it will only affect you, the kids. Kaasi dagita annak mo. Hija, I can control myself but not for long, that is why I told her that. But if you want, I can show you matters I'd rather not. Just comment on this post or tell people to reach out to me. I am sure you can find a  way to reach me. Beware though. You may not like it and it may shatter your illusion of "family."

My mother fights with people a lot I can tell you that but she NEVER brings up the children of her enemies. 

Is this for real? Oh my God. Nuff said. Hahahha. But on a more serious note, let me tell you, this is VERY disturbing. AND it is alright? Maybe you find it amusing that your mother fights a lot as long as she does not bring up children? How about the people she fights with? Their family? Do you stop and pause and think about them? Does she? I think NOT. Not because something is OK with you it is acceptable for me. Listen dear, if your mother can't tell you, I will. Fighting is not good, whether you bring children to the fray or not. Tell your mama to stop fighting. Girl, her reputation precedes her already. Just so you know, I never brought you or your sister at all. The post you read was just that. Refer to my innuendo above.

She knows it is not right because she always told me it's okay for her to get struck by karma just as long as it doesn't affect me and my sister. 

Again, this is wrong. So let me tell you, is it ok for her to steal so long you don't because it is wrong? Karma? Talk about karma. It is coming to get her. Very soon, remember the pigs bring a whole lot of bad karma. Oh, by the way, she called me a pig. Please don't insult my intelligence by saying, " i never named you." The only honor left she has is standing by her word, so let her. Please.

Those children might be too young and too weak. Im not weak but my sister, my sister cried for those posts not because she thought they were true but because she did not like people saying bad things about our mother.We are not "kaasi". My mother is one of those "women" who did not get to finish college because she got pregnant with me. When I was young I used to think that it was my fault. She never made me feel this way though. Once she even said it was all her and my papa. She told me it wasn't even a mistake. Only strong women can do that. To stand by something that would cause them humiliation. Others get an abortion to recieve education. My mother didn't even think of discarding me from her womb. She stood by what she has done and never let me feel that I was a mistake nor a burden to her.

I dont know what to say about this abortion thing, this is out of the topic. But yes, she is strong for that. I never even knew she was unwed when she had you. Now I know. AND the whole world knows. Not that it would change anything. Her reputation is worst than that.

My mother gave birth and gained a wonderful family to add with her family from the side of her parents with new strings of friends and a beautiful marriage. If I ever get married I want a marriage like what my parents have.

Be careful what you wish for.

 They fight,sure. But they don't give up. When we are together and someone has to leave my parents kiss. A quick sweet smack. My dad kisses my mom before leaving for work everytime we are in manila. I mean those are the little things in life that makes it meaningful. The kind you think only happens in movies the things other people can't see. Those are the moments we should be proud of. I know my mom fights a lot. But this is really silly. People not included are actually joining in. Which to me is childish doing The last time I did that was when I was 14 years old, my second year of highschool.But go ahead do what you want I don't care. Give me some popcorn though because I am amused by how much people know about my family. I'm not joining in though I just wanted to let people know that my sister and I are not "kaasi" if anything we are lucky to have a mother like ours. Not everyone is strong enough to go through an unexpected pregnancy and be happy with it. To the women out there who were strong enough, I salute you. Your children are as lucky as we are. To my mom and tita gina just ignore them. No one you care about will change their views of you anyway.We will still love you. Your true friends will not join in nor defend you they will only laugh about this issue because if they are true to you then they won't care about your mistakes no matter what others say. You are not losing people you love with this if anything we will be here to support you. Now if I have offended anyone with this post though I can't seem to get why since it is all about my love and support for my family and nothing else, I don't care what you say about me. I will stand by my family with their mistakes and learn from them. If you get offended with my declaration of love then go ahead post about me too. You would just be helping me figure out who would stay by my side anyways. So thank you. I love you mama. I love you tita gina. I love my family AND their mistakes because I know I'm not perfect anyways. Let the judging begin from the perfect people around us who are waiting for and clinging on to our mistakes in their memories. I hope I get judged at a young age. I hope I can be as blessed as my mother right now because right now, she already knows who really cares about her. She already knows to whom she would give her love to and the people she should treasure. I hope I can distinguish people I should keep in my heart from people I should just ignore. Tonight I'm going to pray again like every night(another teaching of my mother) I'm going to pray to God and thank Him for the wonderful friends and family He has blessed me with. — with Gina Velasco Gatan and Carmelita

No my dear, you have not offended me at all, nor my family. What it did is give me an intelligent venue to answer where it seems impossible to have with your mother.

You don't want popcorn because if you do, this will go on and on. If no else told you yet, I never start a fight but I do not back off from it. Not even with your mother who you said fights a lot or even when people told me to ignore her. So, no popcorn for you.

Now to some salient points to ponder before you start your Journalism course, by the way, I heard you failed UST, maybe try FEU? I went there, I turned ok. Just ok. Better than your mother I suppose. Don't attack me please, that was a journalistic jab  ; ).

1. Seek the truth. The whole truth.
2. I never took your mama seriously until she posted about me and my sisters and our children. NOW that is worth researching, ha? Ask her. At one point before, she point blank ask me if I was pregnant because I looked big and I just said, no i' just fat. If I was ap-apera like your mom, i would have. But no, I am better than that. The problem with your mama is she is so laitera. I may be fat but she is  not skinny either. She looks like, never mind. Now, I am getting upset, ha?
3.If you go back to the posts, you will notice I even defended her to her supposed detractors saying she buys your medals in school. Truth.
4.I am not baboy. Her personality is.
5. My husband is not gurang. My husband has nothing to do with this. Please tell her that. The same way you don't want to be part of this ugly saga, my husband has nothing to do with this. Want me to include your dad here too? 
6. I am not a " greener pasture" girl. I hate to burst your bubble but I am a college graduate -- not like your mom. I was an honor student like you in the same school now, not like your mom. I had a beautiful wedding attended by many, unlike your mom. So i am SO unlike your mom. Yup, she said we are not on the same level. Truth. Why would I want to be on the same level as someone with a bad reputation? WHy? Why would I want someone who even her so called friends tell me to ignore her because she is just that? I can not publish the other terms they use on her. Bad, very bad.
7. Your lola was a katulong who got pregnant by her amo, your lolo. Truth. There is nothing wrong with that. NOTHINg! You know what's wrong and why I brought it up? Because I was putting emphasis on " tumingin ka sa pinanggalingan mo" We are fishermen and smell stinky ( may putok daw ako, sabi ng mama mo, siya naman ang may putok at super yellow ang ngipin, yuck!). Your titas and cousins or mama should never put people down. You learn that in school don't you?
8. Apologies should be sincere. 
9. When you do public apology, make it as it is. Do not add yabang or paawa effect. You lose credibility on it. Then people start PMing and texting how ridiculous it is.
10. You are an extremely intelligent girl. Keep it up. Stay on the Suguitan-Co side though. They will influence you better. 
11. It is not in my place to say so many things I want to tell you, but can I please say, I am not the one who started this.
12. I expect you to believe your mom, you will grow up though and you will see. I just hope that because of this, she will sincerely be changed. 
13. I am no saint either. Take it both ways.

As for your Tita Gina, it's all a different story.